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A Community Collaboration!

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I’ve written a few times about our community, our lovely little corner of the kinky blogosphere where support, kindness, and comfort are of the utmost importance. Community is a big part of what inspires us to share our intimacies, our innermost thoughts, our most delicious, perverse natures…in other words, our truths.

In the spirit of this community, I was absolutely delighted when Marla from the Collars & Cuddles blog reached out to me to do an interview. I’ve always enjoyed her posts which feature a blend of nuanced sexuality, BDSM insights, and helpful educational pieces. And now I’ve had a chance to do a cross-blog collaboration with her – what a treat!

I hope you enjoy the interview as much as I did…and do yourself a favor and subscribe to Collars & Cuddles while you’re there! 🙂 Thanks again, Marla! 🥰

The Patient Wolf

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Someone recently shared with me the Lana Turner quote “A gentleman is simply a patient wolf.” I’d never heard this one before, and it gave me some food for thought. There are a number of ways to interpret this quote, especially within the context of D/s, so I thought I’d mull it over a bit and then throw it out to the comments section to see what you all thought. 

At first glance, there’s a cynical (yet understandable) matter-of-factness to the expression. The implication is that all men are inherently wolves—dangerous, feral, threatening—and that a gentleman is a wolf who knows how to temper these urges slightly better than their counterparts. Although reductive, we can find the echoes of this sentiment in the “man or bear” question that’s been making the rounds for the past year or so.

But if we peel back the onion a bit and look at the expression through a D/s lens, I would argue there’s a different tack we could take here. Perhaps the wolf’s characteristics aren’t dangerous, feral, and threatening, but rather cunning, intelligent, and determined. And when we add “patient” to the mix, this wolf is a sublime manifestation of all that is dominant. He commands respect, he won’t be ignored, he will be obeyed…and he will outlast you no matter how long you resist him. Hmmm…

In all fairness, I’m not so sure that Ms. Turner would agree with this second interpretation, but at least we can engage in some healthy debate about our patient, gentlemanly wolves. 😉

What’s your take on the expression? I’d love to hear your thoughts! 🐺

Submissive Song Sunday

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Who’s gonna pick you up when you fall?
Who’s gonna hang it up when you call?
Who’s gonna pay attention to your dreams?
Yeah, who’s gonna plug their ears when you scream?

You can’t go on, thinking nothing’s wrong, but now
Who’s gonna drive you home tonight?

Who’s gonna hold you down when you shake?
Who’s gonna come around when you break?

You can’t go on, thinking nothing’s wrong, but now
Who’s gonna drive you home tonight?

– “Drive,” The Cars

I hope everyone is doing okay. It’s a long weekend here in the United States, so I’ve got a little extra time to write and ruminate…I figured I might as well write a blog post! 😂

It physically pains me to call this one an “oldie,” but given that this week’s Submissive Song Sunday is more than 40 years old, I suppose it qualifies. Sighhh… 😉 Folks, for this installment, I give you “Drive” by The Cars, incidentally one of my favorite songs of all time.

There’s heartbreak, there’s loss, there’s melancholy, there’s pain… Every last note can crush you with its weight and take your breath away. And, while I don’t think Ric Ocasek had D/s in mind when he wrote this song, the lyrics “Who’s gonna hold you down when you shake? / Who’s gonna come around when you break?” have always held a special energy for me and my submission. The notion that someone would be strong enough to hold me through my struggles and keep holding me even when I’m at my worst? Incredible.

But the whole premise of this song is based on a series of questions, open-ended questions that only she can answer. Ultimately, she’s the one—submissive or not—who has to find her path forward. Most classic love songs have a narrative arc that drives toward redemption, toward understanding, toward togetherness. Yet here, we’re left with questions that only the strongest of submissives can dare to answer.

So, who’s gonna drive you home tonight?

Submissive Song Sunday…and a Thank You!

/ Jaye Elise / 6 Comments

I was naive and wide eyed,
But you made me see,
That you don’t get to taste the honey,
Without the sting of a bee,
No, you don’t.

Yes, you stung me good,
Oh yeah, you dug in deep,
But I’ll take, I’ll take it, I’ll take it,
Til I’m down on my knees.

I’ve got my hands up so take your aim,
Yeah I’m ready,
There’s nothing that we can’t go through.
Walk a thousand miles on broken glass,
It won’t stop me,
From making my way back to you.
It’s not real until you feel the pain,
And nothing ever hurt like you,
Nothing ever hurt like you.

– “Nothing Ever Hurt Like You,” James Morrison

After a few weeks off, I’ve got another Submissive Song Sunday for you, folks! Today’s offering is “Nothing Ever Hurt Like You” by James Morrison. Morrison’s sultry voice, the timeless quality of the composition, and the evocative lyrics are a perfect combination to drive this message home…mmmm…. Whether this “hurt” is emotional or physical—or a delicious combination of both—there’s just something about the refrain “It’s not real until you feel the pain” that…hits a little different for some of us. 😈 Have a listen and enjoy, friends!

On a completely unrelated note, I wanted to thank you for your warm reception of my new novel, Sentenced: A Dark Doctor Romance! I made it into the top ten in my category on Amazon, so that was an exciting surprise! For those of you who’ve purchased the book or read it on Kindle Unlimited, I hope you enjoyed it! Thanks for your support and encouragement. 🥰

And if you haven’t checked it out yet, click on that link above and give it a read…and be sure to let me know if any of those kinky bits tickle your fancy, hm? 😉🌶️

Submissive Song Sunday

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You’re trembling, I like it, too
And we’re never gonna get us enough of it
What did we uncover? (It’s so good)

A dress in black remember that one
Can’t take it back like I never had fun
If only I could touch her (it’s so good)

We’re changing forms
I’m losing you
You’re black and blue
Only when I touch you

– “Touch,” MOTHXR

Back again with another Submissive Song Sunday, folks! I’ve got “Touch” by MOTHXR on tap for you. Full disclosure for those of you unfamiliar with this group – this whole album is a D/s MOOD, my friends. 🌶️🥵😈 Like, picture your Dom having this album on repeat for as long as he wants to keep you on edge, and then keeping you there for those extra few beats…those sinful beats that remind you who you belong to…and then…whew…where was I??

Ah, yes…the song! Well, I think the lyrics speak for themselves on this one, but be sure to give it a listen and wait for the ending chorus of “let me sink my teeth in” on repeat… So sinful that you might need to go to confession afterwards!

Have a sexy, sultry Sunday, my friends!

Submissive Song Sunday

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You pull me in, skin on skin.
I try to run, you pull me back again.
‘Cause there’s no end, the circle that we’re in.
I guess I’m yours to guide.

– “Locked,” Welshly Arms

Well, yours truly is in a deeeeep mood today, so probably best to get some of this submissive energy out there so I can get some actual writing down without—um—distractions. With that in mind, allow me to share this week’s installment of Submissive Song Sunday, a sultry little number by Welshly Arms called “Locked.”

There’s something deep in the pulse of this song that moves me every time. The blend of softer, plaintive refrains with a hard-hitting chorus…a wicked guitar solo…and a singer who clearly feels every last note he’s belting out… 🥵 This one is borderline feral, folks – fair warning!

On the surface, this song delves into a toxic relationship of raw physicality from which the singer can’t escape. But—as I’m always on the lookout for that sweet, submissive, silver lining—I hear him describe the “twisted ride,” the “curse,” and the “hurt” as promises. As maxims to be attained, not avoided. There’s a craving of being locked into this relationship. A need to be pinned to the wall by it and forced to surrender. “I guess I’m yours to guide…”

I’d be curious if this one resonates with anyone else in our lovely D/s community. And, well, even if it doesn’t, you still get a great song out of it! 😉

May your week be as spectacular as you are!

Him

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His hand extends to me from the darkness. To pleasure me? To hurt me? To blend the two extremes? I crave His dominance with everything that I am, yet I doubt my ability to remain intact in His presence. 

How do I navigate something so powerful yet so terrifying? How do I look myself in the mirror and see anything other than His reflection staring back at me through my own eyes? How do I stand tall in my sense of self when every instinct commands me to kneel before Him?

I know where He’ll lead me…where He’ll drag me, kicking and screaming…where He’ll weave his way into the most private corners of my soul. Am I powerless to stop Him? 

Or am I wise enough not to try?

I’ve been noodling on a few sketches/vignettes for some of my protagonists and thought I’d share these with you for thoughts and input! Plus, this gives me a way to purge these ideas, make way for some new ones, and (hopefully) turn a few readers on in the process! 😉 Enjoy!

Submissive Song Sunday

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Shame on you
Shame on me
I blindly blame you
When truly

You’re my blanket, you’re my skin
You’re everything within
You’re my guardian, I’m your sail
A boat in your harbor
Gone under, capsized and sinking
Blanket me, blanket me, blanket me, blanket me, blanket me…

– “Blanket Me,” Hundred Waters

Here’s another song that’s a go-to on my erotica writing playlist. “Blanket Me” by Hundred Waters is ethereal, haunting, powerful, evocative, all-consuming…all the things that D/s can be when it’s at its most sublime.

There is a heart-breaking vulnerability in her voice as she accuses him of leading her astray, leading her into the darkness, leading her into places she’s forbidden to go… Yet she quickly recognizes that he is her protector and savior, the one who can rescue her from plummeting into the darkness. She begs him for his protection…to be blanketed by his dominance.

This emotional tug-of-war is captivating in its simple intensity and the “blanket me” repetition at the end of the song has a mesmerizing, meditative quality about it. She has found her best and highest purpose when wrapped in his protection, his care, his love.

May we all be blanketed in the ways we deserve.

Have a wonderful week, all!

When Reality Meets My Reality

/ Jaye Elise / 7 Comments

Mr. Elise and I are about to have a house full of family for a few days.* Yes, I’m thrilled to have visitors. And yes, it will be lovely to connect with them in our home. But this is a curious situation in which Reality, with a capital “R”, intrudes on my reality and the results are jarring, abrasive, and unsettling. 

Jaye Elise lives in a computer, in my mind, in my friends here, and in my readers. “The other one” has to do the day-to-day heavy lifting, she’s the one with the visitors in the house, and she’s the one who can’t be her true self in front of others. 

And so, just like so many before me and so many yet to come—and I imagine many of you, too—I’ll put on my mask. I’ll wear it as long as I have to and not a minute longer. Mr. Elise and I will try to carve out stolen moments to drop our guard and see each other for who we really are. 

We’ll bide our time until our reality becomes the one with the capital “R” again.

*I probably won’t be posting too much either, but I can’t wait to come back and find out what I’ve missed! 🙂