Submissive Song Sunday


Who’s gonna pick you up when you fall?
Who’s gonna hang it up when you call?
Who’s gonna pay attention to your dreams?
Yeah, who’s gonna plug their ears when you scream?

You can’t go on, thinking nothing’s wrong, but now
Who’s gonna drive you home tonight?

Who’s gonna hold you down when you shake?
Who’s gonna come around when you break?

You can’t go on, thinking nothing’s wrong, but now
Who’s gonna drive you home tonight?

– “Drive,” The Cars


I hope everyone is doing okay. It’s a long weekend here in the United States, so I’ve got a little extra time to write and ruminate…I figured I might as well write a blog post! 😂

It physically pains me to call this one an “oldie,” but given that this week’s Submissive Song Sunday is more than 40 years old, I suppose it qualifies. Sighhh… 😉 Folks, for this installment, I give you “Drive” by The Cars, incidentally one of my favorite songs of all time.

There’s heartbreak, there’s loss, there’s melancholy, there’s pain… Every last note can crush you with its weight and take your breath away. And, while I don’t think Ric Ocasek had D/s in mind when he wrote this song, the lyrics “Who’s gonna hold you down when you shake? / Who’s gonna come around when you break?” have always held a special energy for me and my submission. The notion that someone would be strong enough to hold me through my struggles and keep holding me even when I’m at my worst? Incredible.

But the whole premise of this song is based on a series of questions, open-ended questions that only she can answer. Ultimately, she’s the one—submissive or not—who has to find her path forward. Most classic love songs have a narrative arc that drives toward redemption, toward understanding, toward togetherness. Yet here, we’re left with questions that only the strongest of submissives can dare to answer.

So, who’s gonna drive you home tonight?

Submissive Song Sunday…and a Thank You!

I was naive and wide eyed,
But you made me see,
That you don’t get to taste the honey,
Without the sting of a bee,
No, you don’t.

Yes, you stung me good,
Oh yeah, you dug in deep,
But I’ll take, I’ll take it, I’ll take it,
Til I’m down on my knees.

I’ve got my hands up so take your aim,
Yeah I’m ready,
There’s nothing that we can’t go through.
Walk a thousand miles on broken glass,
It won’t stop me,
From making my way back to you.
It’s not real until you feel the pain,
And nothing ever hurt like you,
Nothing ever hurt like you.

– “Nothing Ever Hurt Like You,” James Morrison


After a few weeks off, I’ve got another Submissive Song Sunday for you, folks! Today’s offering is “Nothing Ever Hurt Like You” by James Morrison. Morrison’s sultry voice, the timeless quality of the composition, and the evocative lyrics are a perfect combination to drive this message home…mmmm…. Whether this “hurt” is emotional or physical—or a delicious combination of both—there’s just something about the refrain “It’s not real until you feel the pain” that…hits a little different for some of us. 😈 Have a listen and enjoy, friends!


On a completely unrelated note, I wanted to thank you for your warm reception of my new novel, Sentenced: A Dark Doctor Romance! I made it into the top ten in my category on Amazon, so that was an exciting surprise! For those of you who’ve purchased the book or read it on Kindle Unlimited, I hope you enjoyed it! Thanks for your support and encouragement. 🥰

And if you haven’t checked it out yet, click on that link above and give it a read…and be sure to let me know if any of those kinky bits tickle your fancy, hm? 😉🌶️

Submissive Song Sunday

You’re trembling, I like it, too
And we’re never gonna get us enough of it
What did we uncover? (It’s so good)

A dress in black remember that one
Can’t take it back like I never had fun
If only I could touch her (it’s so good)

We’re changing forms
I’m losing you
You’re black and blue
Only when I touch you

– “Touch,” MOTHXR


Back again with another Submissive Song Sunday, folks! I’ve got “Touch” by MOTHXR on tap for you. Full disclosure for those of you unfamiliar with this group – this whole album is a D/s MOOD, my friends. 🌶️🥵😈 Like, picture your Dom having this album on repeat for as long as he wants to keep you on edge, and then keeping you there for those extra few beats…those sinful beats that remind you who you belong to…and then…whew…where was I??

Ah, yes…the song! Well, I think the lyrics speak for themselves on this one, but be sure to give it a listen and wait for the ending chorus of “let me sink my teeth in” on repeat… So sinful that you might need to go to confession afterwards!

Have a sexy, sultry Sunday, my friends!

Submissive Song Sunday

You pull me in, skin on skin.
I try to run, you pull me back again.
‘Cause there’s no end, the circle that we’re in.
I guess I’m yours to guide.

– “Locked,” Welshly Arms


Well, yours truly is in a deeeeep mood today, so probably best to get some of this submissive energy out there so I can get some actual writing down without—um—distractions. With that in mind, allow me to share this week’s installment of Submissive Song Sunday, a sultry little number by Welshly Arms called “Locked.”

There’s something deep in the pulse of this song that moves me every time. The blend of softer, plaintive refrains with a hard-hitting chorus…a wicked guitar solo…and a singer who clearly feels every last note he’s belting out… 🥵 This one is borderline feral, folks – fair warning!

On the surface, this song delves into a toxic relationship of raw physicality from which the singer can’t escape. But—as I’m always on the lookout for that sweet, submissive, silver lining—I hear him describe the “twisted ride,” the “curse,” and the “hurt” as promises. As maxims to be attained, not avoided. There’s a craving of being locked into this relationship. A need to be pinned to the wall by it and forced to surrender. “I guess I’m yours to guide…”

I’d be curious if this one resonates with anyone else in our lovely D/s community. And, well, even if it doesn’t, you still get a great song out of it! 😉

May your week be as spectacular as you are!

Submissive Song Sunday

Shame on you
Shame on me
I blindly blame you
When truly

You’re my blanket, you’re my skin
You’re everything within
You’re my guardian, I’m your sail
A boat in your harbor
Gone under, capsized and sinking
Blanket me, blanket me, blanket me, blanket me, blanket me…

– “Blanket Me,” Hundred Waters


Here’s another song that’s a go-to on my erotica writing playlist. “Blanket Me” by Hundred Waters is ethereal, haunting, powerful, evocative, all-consuming…all the things that D/s can be when it’s at its most sublime.

There is a heart-breaking vulnerability in her voice as she accuses him of leading her astray, leading her into the darkness, leading her into places she’s forbidden to go… Yet she quickly recognizes that he is her protector and savior, the one who can rescue her from plummeting into the darkness. She begs him for his protection…to be blanketed by his dominance.

This emotional tug-of-war is captivating in its simple intensity and the “blanket me” repetition at the end of the song has a mesmerizing, meditative quality about it. She has found her best and highest purpose when wrapped in his protection, his care, his love.

May we all be blanketed in the ways we deserve.

Have a wonderful week, all!

Submissive Song Sunday

So I’ll hit the lights and you lock the doors. We ain’t leaving this room ’til we both feel more. Don’t walk away, don’t roll your eyes. They say love is pain, well darling, let’s hurt tonight.

– “Let’s Hurt Tonight,” OneRepublic


When I’m in writing mode, I have a carefully curated playlist I listen to. Nothing too energetic, nothing too beat-heavy, nothing too distracting. But every single song has some sexual electricity woven into it. It occurred to me that I could share some of my songs that get me into a positive frame of mind for writing and reinforce my submissive headspace. (Plus, I’d love to hear some of your suggestions in the comments!)

I’ve always enjoyed identifying supposedly “vanilla” songs and teasing out D/s subtext in the lyrics. Granted, I enjoy overt sexuality in songs, too. “Closer” by Nine Inch Nails, anyone? 🥵 But the Submissive Song segment is all about the subtleties…and alliteration, evidently. It’s about finding the songs that resonate with our inner kinksters, even when this might not have been the songwriter’s original intention. For this week’s Submissive Song Sunday, I present to you “Let’s Hurt Tonight” by OneRepublic.

On the surface, it’s the story of a couple that’s struggling to communicate, struggling to connect. They’re exhausted, they’re upset, they’re defensive. The man proposes confronting their challenges by shutting themselves away from the rest of the world and breaking through the stalemate they’re in.

Buuuut, as I’m sure my fellow kinkyfolk will acknowledge after a quick scan of those lyrics above, there is something delectably D/s-charged about this exchange. It’s no longer just a plea to do the emotional heavy-lifting that has to occur; it’s an invitation to sink their teeth into the moment and share the catharsis of a pain session.

They say love is pain, well darling, let’s hurt tonight.

Yes, please…