“Eyes on me.” 

There are few things that bring a submissive to rapt attention faster than these three words. Ahhh, delicious, deviant, decadent attention.

And eye contact is vital, yes, but it’s so much more.

It’s establishing deep focus on the Dominant and placing yourself in their hands. It’s silencing external stimuli and establishing a cocoon of safety and trust within which you explore together. It’s recognizing the fundamental power in your submission and entrusting your body, mind, and soul to the Dominant. 

It’s the D/s power exchange distilled into its purest essence with three seemingly innocent words. Although, as powerful as these words and the implied exchange are, I’ve been noticing of late that there is another layer I’d not explored.

We live in a world in which our attention is parceled into seconds-long snippets, with clicks, likes, clips, vids, and other quick hits of social dopamine vying for our limited attention spans. There’s also the focus demanded of us by our careers, families, and friends…by our artistic and extracurricular pursuits…by the increasingly polarized and unsettling news cycle and state of current affairs…and I could go on. 

But for the briefest of moments – and for however long he commands it – “eyes on me” is a reminder that you’re in service of a higher purpose, one that demands your full attention. 

And I’m hard pressed to find many things sexier than that.